This week, a small group of anti-choice campaigners held a little demonstration/picket in front of our public High School. They had VERY large signs and pamphlets with gruesome but fake images of aborted fetuses and text that equated family planning with murder. Both the students and our neighbours were distressed and people intervened in a variety of ways.
So, in our Gender Studies class, we talked about what’s so unique about abortion. We tried to answer the questions: “Of all the religious beliefs, why is this the one that some people are still rabid to impose on others? Who benefits if abortion were to become illegal again? And, if it never becomes illegal again, then who benefits from a ongoing campaign that tells women that making a decision about when to have a child (or build a family) is the same as committing murder?”
And then we did a little imagining…..
In an effort to acknowledge that men also have a responsibility when it comes to pregnancy we came up with the following list of laws & regulations that the ‘pro-life’ movement can champion to ensure that every child that is conceived is a child planned for rather than just focusing on making abortion illegal and blaming women:
1) Mandatory Sex Saving Fund
Any man wishing to have sex with a woman must have saved and deposited $25,000 into a state-controlled Sex Savings account. If he impregnates a woman, she automatically gets the money to raise the child. He cannot have sex again until he saves another $25,000.
2) Sex Partner Certification
You must be Sex Partner Certified before having sex. This would include training on birth control methods, consent, pleasure and parenting expectations. There could be different levels of certification. This could be integrated into our existing photo ID options in Ontario.
3) Mandatory Vasectomies in Grade 7
Once a man is able to ejaculate, some of his sperm is frozen (as a safeguard) and he gets a vasectomy. He can later apply for a vasectomy reversal once he has proven his stability as a future parent and gets the consent of his partner.
4) Men as Primary Caregiver
After a child is born, the man is culturally expected and legally obligated to be the primary caregiver. If a woman doesn’t want to be ‘tied down’, the man would be expected to quit his job/school and devote his life to the child. The man would also be expected to be the primary caregiver to aging parents so that women would be free to ‘find themselves’ and ‘take care of me’. Women who chose to stay and help raise a child would be showered with praise for how ‘unusual’ it would be.
5) All Sex Must Have An Official Witness
To prevent sex for just pleasure and to make sure people engaging in sex acts are ready to be parents, the only legal sex would be sex with official witnesses who can approve of or intervene in sex acts.
6) Simulated Pregnancy
All men who get a woman pregnant must go through 18 months of simulated pregnancy. The technology now exists to mimic pain, swelling, etc so that both partners can endure the gift of life.